LONELINESS 😟

Long time no see...!!

I'm back with a small content but though a powerful one.

So topic is on "LONELINESS"

And by just reading this topic you somewhere felt a part of it, if I'm not wrong.

 LONELINESS is something that each and every one of us have experienced somewhere in our many phases of life. And most probably the age group commonly affected are 16-25 yrs. When we are not aware of the things or persons in proper manner, we are still immature , lack decision power, having a confused mind state, and with all this we have an overthinking mind which lets us to think situations we are not actually in. 

Many a times when we sit lonely in our balcony or in our room, we count the people who are really like us and will be a part of us in all situations . And we rarely get a very few of them in our finger tips. Just for an instance, think that, Are you in someone's finger tip counting? Don't expect the same back if you can't do that for someone. 

Such things takes lot of efforts and investment of time with a comfort zone and ya to be obvious TRUST. 

We all have felt loneliness at our homes itself, at our hostel, at our workplace, or at our classrooms, though with people surrounded.

We talk to ourselves. Like for many hours? We talk to ourself at every milli second of our life , if you observe it properly. We continuously utter words with our own soul. Have you ever tried to keep calm and close your eyes while keeping your mind blank? Was it possible for you? If yes, then for how many minutes? 

I tried many times but though for at that instant too, I was thinking that how to make my mind blank without any arising thoughts? It's very hard to keep your mind at peace in this curious aged mind. Bcoz our mind always tries to grab things, look for something that is new to our eyes or rewind some past memories, or think of imaginary future things. 

According to a report , humans spend 70% of their time day dreaming, creating scenarios that will never happen. 

We feel as we are alone with our only soul present. We feel alone bcoz we have lot to keep hidden within ourselves. We have secrets.

People are mysterious.

No one can know a person in term completely.

Bcoz each one holds many secrets which are just kept to themselves.

Ok I can't call it as a secret, but yeah "Dark secrets".

Dark secrets are those things in life which are shared with a person too, or it can be individual too. But these are kept just in the soul.Every one has some dark secrets which they can't even share to their partner.

Bcoz the day if we try to let it out, we may lose our face which was to the world or which meant to the world.

Sometimes we just feel so suffocated in our own breath. As if many people are trying to control our actions, our activities and we are surrounded by them in many means!! Sometimes We just plan to run away from everyone for some days. But as before I said, We don't want to erase that image which we had given to the world..!!

DARK SECRETS

Yeah that's what they are for!!

To be kept HIDDEN & SAFE, INSIDE & OUT... 

LONELINESS is associated with high rates of premature deaths due to anxiety, depression and suicide.  Loneliness creates shame towards surrounding and society to talk. It withdraws us away from friends as well as family.

The factors leading to loneliness include situations , such as physical isolation, moving to a new location, and divorce or the death of someone close in a person's life can also lead to feelings of loneliness. Loneliness can also be attributed to internal factors such as low self-esteem, self doubt. 

According to a research , Poor social relationships was associated with a 29% increased risk of heart disease and a 32% increased risk of stroke. Loneliness was associated with higher rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide. 

Characteristics of people who are more likely to experience loneliness include: those who are widowed, those with poorer health and those with long-term illness or disability. 43.45% of the group reporting bad or very bad health are often lonely.

A person with many friends can also be lonely. Remember that the person who is surrounded by many people are not necessarily very happy in their lives. It just appears to be an illusion sometimes. 

Just reminded me of a meme, which showed a really big laugh on the front and a sobbing face behind that smile..! We can't really know what's there in someone's mind. We can't judge anyone's life by their appearance which is shown by them to the world.

There is a difference between loneliness and a state of solitude. 

Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness. 

Whereas Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely.

Psychologists and social neuroscientists often refer to loneliness as painful isolation. The emphasis on painful is there to make a clear distinction between solitude – the state of being alone, enjoying being alone by spending time with own – and subjective loneliness, which is the distressing feeling that comes from unmet expectations of the types of interpersonal relationships we wish to have. 

Now what's the perfect thing to do about this loneliness? 

According to me , LONELINESS is a double edged thing. It depends on surrounding atmosphere as well as ourselves. It's within you how you deal with the situations, and make yourself a better version than yesterday. Most importantly, you need to make your self esteem high and value yourself first. 

Bcoz somewhere sometimes, making continuous efforts and giving value to someone makes ourselves feel underrated. So, always keep faith within you. 

You are amazing.

You know yourself the best.

Don't feel miserable due to others.

It's okay to feel lonely sometimes. It makes you realise how to deal with hardcore situations too. But for a long time, it's hazardous to mental health. 

Robert Waldinger, the director of astudy, summarized – in what is now one of the most viewed TED Talks to date – the findings from decades of research. The main result, he concluded, is that social connections are one of the most important factors for people’s happiness and health. He said: “Those who kept warm relationships got to live longer and happier, and the loners often died earlier”.

What is a good Bible verse for loneliness? A good Bible verse about loneliness is It lets you know that you should be courageous and know you are not alone, since the Lord God is always with you.  

WE GET THROWN AWAY FROM THE WAVES AND ARE LEFT ALONE AT THE SHORE..!!

SO, BE A PART OF THE OCEAN AND WAVE SWIFTLY WITH THE FLOW !! 💫